How to Be the Light of Christ in Your Child’s Life

by Jaz James

Hey Love,

Being a parent comes with challenges, and when your child’s choices take them in directions you never anticipated, it can be difficult to know how to respond. As a parent of a stripper, you might wrestle with emotions like disappointment, fear, or confusion. But amid these feelings, there is a profound opportunity: to be a light of Christ in your child’s life. This doesn’t mean condoning choices that conflict with your values—it means showing the unconditional love, grace, and truth that Christ models for us. Here are practical ways to reflect His light and love in your relationship with your child.

Love Without Conditions

Jesus calls us to love others as He has loved us—freely and without conditions. This love doesn’t depend on whether someone’s actions align with our expectations or values; it is given generously regardless. As a parent, showing this kind of love to your child means affirming their worth and reminding them that they are cherished by God and by you.

Simple actions can speak volumes: checking in with them regularly, offering encouragement, or just being available to listen without judgment. Avoid trying to “fix” their situation or push them toward immediate change. Instead, focus on nurturing your relationship, so they know you are a safe, loving presence in their life. As Matthew 5:16 reminds us, 

"Let your light shine before others, that they may see your good deeds and glorify your Father in heaven."

Be Present and Supportive

Being a light of Christ doesn’t mean having all the answers—it means being present. Your child may be navigating struggles or challenges they haven’t shared with you, and your consistent presence can offer a sense of stability and hope. This could look like offering practical help when they need it, such as assistance with transportation, meals, or a listening ear after a long day.

At the same time, pray regularly for your child, asking God to work in their heart and life. Let them know you are praying for them, not as a way to pressure them into change, but to show that you care deeply for their well-being. When appropriate, share scripture or words of encouragement that reflect God’s grace, reminding them of His unwavering love.

Set Healthy Boundaries

Loving your child doesn’t mean agreeing with or enabling behaviors that conflict with your values. It’s essential to set healthy boundaries that protect your emotional and spiritual well-being while maintaining a loving relationship. Boundaries could include limits on certain financial support, clear communication about what behaviors are acceptable in your home, or gently declining to participate in situations that compromise your values.

However, boundaries should always be implemented with love and clarity. Avoid using boundaries as a tool for punishment or manipulation. Instead, frame them as a way to maintain a healthy relationship while staying true to your convictions. By balancing love with truth, you reflect the way Christ interacts with us—offering grace while guiding us toward His ways.

Shine the Light of Christ Through Grace

Ultimately, being a light of Christ in your child’s life means embodying His grace. Grace allows you to love when it’s hard, forgive when it’s undeserved, and remain hopeful even in difficult circumstances. It’s not about being a perfect parent but about showing your child what it looks like to follow Christ with humility and trust.

Your actions, prayers, and unwavering love can plant seeds of faith that may bloom in your child’s heart over time. While you may not see immediate change, know that your light can guide them back toward Christ’s love when they are ready. Keep shining, keep loving, and trust God to work in their life in His perfect timing. As you walk this journey, remember Jesus’ promise in John 8:12: 

“I am the light of the world. Whoever follows me will never walk in darkness, but will have the light of life.” 

Let His light lead you as you strive to be a reflection of His love in your child’s life.

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Jaz James is the director of Strip Church and founder of Lace Warriors, a strip club ministry that serves over 200 entertainers in West Texas and Northern Mexico.